This message is from a minister friend of mine, named Elder Trev Evans.
You and I were not made to do life alone.
In the day, in which we live we have our cell phones: And yes technology is a blessing. It allows us to reach further than we could on our own, and connect with others, but technology can be deceptive, because sometimes technology can cause us to believe that we have connections that we really don’t have. Sometimes if we are not careful we will lose the ability to connect and relate to other people in a face-to-face manner; and often times this disconnect can be a result of bad things that we’ve been through.
I have a friend who will use a phrase similar to this: “If you miss the first 5min. of Law And Order, throw your whole TV away.” And this is a joke or phrase that basically says “If something doesn’t go right, then just throw the whole thing away.” And I get that this is a joke, but I also believe that we have to be careful, because if not, that mentality will slip in on us in other areas of our lives. That if something doesn’t go right, that we just throw the whole thing away. And I think that’s dangerous, especially when it comes to relationships.
I remember a time when people made a living off of being a repairman. When something broke, people just didn’t throw it away. They actually took the item somewhere for it to be repaired, because that thing, though it was broken, still had value. Even in our relationships, if we are not careful, something goes wrong in a relationship, and we’ll just throw the whole thing away; And what will happen is, over time we will end up not having the quality relationships that we were supposed to have, which causes us to miss opportunities.
We weren’t made to do life alone…Even as different as we all are.
I am an extrovert, but I share an office with someone who is an introvert. My office partner gave me an excellent lesson on the personalities of introverts, so that I can better interact with them. The lesson my colleague taught helped me to better understand and not to assume they are standoffish, have bad attitudes, or that they don’t want to be bothered; When in reality we all are just different. And so we can’t throw introverts away, no more than we can throw extroverts away. What happens is, if we take the time to get to know one another, what introverts help me to do is to calm down, slow down, and settle down. I can learn from them, and in the same token, they can learn from me.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
If all of us were the same, this would mean that some of us would be unnecessary. The reality is that we are different by divine design
There will come a day when each of us will need the assistance of another person. Each of us will encounter something that a computer can’t resolve. Each of us will encounter something that money will not be able to solve. Each of us will need somebody to lean on.
Even in difficulty we will need somebody to be with us. Jesus shows us this truth, in Matthew 26. When He is going through one of the most difficult times in His life. He is going into the garden, and will soon be arrested and crucified. When Jesus goes to the garden, He still takes Peter, James, and John. And even in our difficult days, you and I can’t just unplug from life and people. The Bible says that the three disciples were a stone’s throw away from Jesus, so they were close by. Now Jesus did have to go a few steps further alone, and there will be some places where we will have to go by ourselves, but we should still bring other people as close as we can.
The danger is not in everybody needing to know what’s going on with us, but the real danger is when nobody knows what’s going on with us. When we haven’t allowed anyone to get close enough to us to realize that we are not on our game, this is dangerous. You may be saying, “Well the last person that I allowed to get close to me hurt me.” I understand that, and if you have to setup boundaries and ease into new friendships, than do that…just don’t cut everybody off. I understand that somebody hurt you in the past. I’ve been hurt by people in the past. We must allow God to heal these hurts, and allow the Lord to lead and guide us as to what people we can build new relationships with.
Another reason we need other people in our life is to help when there are blessings and burdens. When we have blessings, and we have someone to share it with, it doubles the blessing. On the otherhand, when you have a burden to bare and you have someone to share it with, it divides the burden. You and I need people in our life for good days and bad days.
A very essential reason you and I need other people in our lives is for accountability. You and I need someone to help us live up to the standard of the Word of God and to the goals that we set for ourselves. You and I need someone to let us know when they see us slacking off from the things that we need to be doing in order to thrive in life. We all need this, regardless of our age or job title.
We need someone to help us see what we cannot see. If we refuse to receive Godly advice and constructive criticism from anybody, we’re in a dangerous spot. If nobody can tell us when we’ve gone too far, we’re in a dangerous spot. If no one can say, “Man, you spoke to your wife a little too harshly.” Or “Girl, you’ve been out a little too long. It’s time to get home to your husband.” We’re in a dangerous spot. If you are the only person who can correct you, you’re in a dangerous spot. I don’t care how good your vision is, you still can’t see behind you.
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
When you’re looking at your own intentions, other people can see the results of your actions. For example, we could speak ugly to someone else, and then a friend will warn us that we spoke too harshly: And then we will tell our friend that we didn’t mean it that way. This is actions versus intentions. Our intention was that we didn’t mean it that way, but the reality is it came out that way; And if we don’t have someone in our life to tell us that “Regardless of what you meant, this is how it came out.”, we’re in trouble, and we will start damaging relationships. We’ll start blaming other people, and the reality is that we are the common denominator in every situation.
We’ve got to have someone in our life, who will tell us the truth. Change cannot occur without truth. We need someone to be completely honest with us. Sometimes the truth may initially hurt us, but ultimately we will appreciate hearing the truth from someone that we know truly cares about us.
There will come a day for all of us when our smarts won’t work. Life will hand us something that we can’t handle alone. So since we know we’re going to need somebody, let’s not wait until life is about halfway down the tube, before we start reaching out and connecting. Many of us already have good people in our life, we only need to do things to strengthen the relationships. Make time for each other. Go to lunch, Talk face-to-face. Value your relationships with others, and pour into them. And if you don’t have strong relationships, I encourage you to seek God and ask Him to direct you to good friends, and then begin to work on strengthening those relationships.
If you do not know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior, I want to invite you to receive Him into your heart today. You can do so by praying to Him in your own words, or by praying and truly believing the prayer below:
PRAYER OF SALVATION:
Lord, I acknowledge that I have sinned against You. I now ask You to forgive me of my actions. I believe that Jesus Christ died for my sins, and rose again on the third day, so that I could have eternal life. I now invite Jesus to come into my heart, and guide my life from this day forward. I thank You, Jesus for saving me.
When we accept salvation, God saves us immediately, and makes us fit for entrance into Heaven, however some changes God will empower you to make easily, while making other changes will be a process that may take months or even years to make. Regardless of your situation, I assure you that the Lord loves you more than you could ever comprehend, and He will be with you every step of the way. Pray, study God’s Word and ask Him to give you revelation of what you are reading. I also pray that the Lord will direct you to a true Bible teaching, Jesus loving church, where you can have the support of other believers.