Should a husband place ministry or Family First?

What should be the order of priorities in our family?


Jeremiah 17:9 Judah’s Sin and Punishment

Titus 1:5-9 Qualified Elders

1 Timothy 3:1-13 Qualifications of Overseers

Matthew 16:18 Peter Confesses Jesus as the Christ.

Matthew 19:29 With God All Things Are Possible


He wants to boldly pursue the work God has called him to do.  You (wife) want to create a secure and nurturing home conductive to family life.  Neither of you are wrong to want these things, but neither of you are unaffected by your sin nature.  No matter how fervently we feel something to be right, you and I cannot rely on our hearts for true guidance.  Jeremiah reminds us.


Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?


In the New Testament church, leaders were required to demonstrate faithfulness at home before they were considered eligible for leadership (Read Titus 1:5-9, 1 Timothy 3:1-13).  Too often you and I, in our context, we consider leadership to be so important that it’s worth the neglecting of home life.  This gets it backwards. And it’s dangerous because it’s built on the assumption that “without me, God’s church can’t survive.” But God says,


Matthew 16:18 And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church.


It’s God’s church.  Since you are married or you may marry, you will be his wife and he your husband.  You will both give an account on the last day of how you stewarded your marriage, your parenting, your family.


Scripture does say we must be willing to leave everything for Christ.  Jesus said:


Matthew 19:29 And everyone who has left houses or brother or sisters or fathers or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life.


So what should be the order of priorities in our family?


The Bible does not lay out a step by step order for family relationship priorities. However, you and I can look to the Scriptures and find general principles for prioritizing our family relationships.  God obviously comes first:


Deuteronomy 6:5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.


If you are married, your spouse comes next.  A married man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).  Christ’s first priority after obeying and glorifying the Father was the church.  Here is an example a husband should follow:


  1. God first
  2. Then wife


In the same way, wives are to submit to their husbands “as to the lord”(Ephesians 5:22).  The principle is that a woman’s husband is second only to God in her priorities.


If the husbands and wives are second only to God in our priorities, and since a husband and wife are one flesh (Ephesians 5:31), it stands to reason that the result of the marriage relationship, children should be next priority.  Parents are to raise godly children who will be the next generation of those who love the Lord with all their hearts Proverbs 22:6, Ephesians 6:4.


Accept Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, today.  Today is the day of salvation.  Now is the accepted time.  You may not have tomorrow.  Have a Blessed Day.


Written By Edward Jeffries

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