There are three emotional needs that every person must have met:
1. The need to feel secure and have a level of consistency in our life.
2. The need to discover our own significance and life’s purpose
3. The need to share love with and be loved by others.
As we travel this life journey, we can find ourselves: tempted by Satan, influenced by the ways of the world, and even sucked in by our own sinful flesh to try to meet these needs without God. In some cases, even sincere followers of Christ can find themselves attempting to try to “help God out” when it seems that He isn’t moving fast enough in attending to our concerns.
For example, a friend recently reached out to me for counsel regarding a potential career move. My friend has been performing his current position for the past 22 years. His current work hours enable him to get off work at the same time each day, and to spend quality time with his wife and kids. In addition, he said he really enjoys working alongside his current coworkers, and the job is not very stressful. Anyway, he was recently approached, by a senior manager, about applying for a management position. The new position would pay much more than what my friend is currently making, but of course he would be taking on more responsibilities and having to work longer hours. My friend was experiencing great ridicule from other staff within the company, because of his hesitance in accepting the position. Many people were telling him he’d be crazy to turn down this pay increase and the opportunity to add a management title behind his name.
After praying together and discussing the pros and cons of accepting or denying this career move, my friend ultimately decided to keep his current position. He said his significance did not rest in the size of his bank account or having a management title, but instead it rested in his faith in God. He said he felt God advising him to choose having a position that kept him with inner peace and enabled him to maintain his family time.
To give another example; Many years ago, I worked with a lady, who’d been a professing Atheist for 15 years. While she was a great worker, the Lord gave myself and two of my other Christian coworkers discernment that there were issues going on in this lady’s personal life, and we began going into prayer that her heart would be softened where she could be witnessed to. Gradually, as time went on, the lady began to ask us questions about the Lord. We learned that her father had been very physically and verbally abusive to her, her mother, and her siblings. As a result of the pain from her childhood, the lady had grown very distrustful of people; And because of the way her earthly father had treated her, she’d grown to reject the notion that there was a loving Heavenly Father, who loved her. Because of the manner in which my two coworkers and I conducted ourselves, the lady had begun to desire the inner peace that we had. I am happy to report that the lady did come to know Jesus Christ as her personal Savior, and is serving the Lord faithfully to this day.
As I previously mentioned, even after we have accepted salvation, we can still find ourselves drifting into looking to earthly things to satisfy our needs. Many Christians seek lofty positions within the church, when God has not yet refined their character and skills to be able to handle the position, OR when God has not truly called them to that position. Some pastors may find themselves spending more time traveling up and down the road and around the globe, than what God has actually called them to do. They find themselves seeking the validation of fellow clergy and the adulation of large crowds; Rather than listening to the guidance of the Holy Spirit by getting adequate rest and spending quiet time in prayer and God’s Word.
While it is true that we are created to interact and relate with other people, and it is nice to receive material things; Because people bring prejudices and emotional baggage from past life experiences into relationships, people tend to love conditionally. Furthermore, material things will depreciate in value over time, and can be destroyed or stolen.
God is the only person who can truly meet our need for security, significance, and love in every way.
He creates each of us, and demonstrates unconditional love by loving us in spite of our sinful ways. While we were yet sinners, He sent His only begotten Son to die on a cross to pay the penalty for our wicked ways, and then rise from the grave so that we can someday obtain entrance into His kingdom. God desires a personal relationship with us on a daily basis where we can bring our concerns, praise, worship, and questions to Him; And He can in turn offer us guidance and encouragement.
Once we accept the fact that our Creator placed us on this Earth for a reason, and wants to equip us with the destiny to carry out an ordained purpose; this gives us significance.
And as we walk with God, and He helps us to overcome various challenges; our faith begins to build up and strengthen, and we feel secure that He will keep His promise to never leave us or forsake us.
Heavenly Father, we thank you for being the meter of our every need.
If you are struggling with feelings of insecurity, insignificance, and/or lack of love, Please know that the Lord Jesus Christ is the answer. Today is the day that we celebrate His resurrection from the grave, and He wants to meet your needs first by becoming your Savior.
I come to You, confessing that I am a sinner. I’ve been trying to meet my need for security, significance, and true love, by my own rules, and I now acknowledge that I need You in my life.
I now ask You to come into my heart, forgive me for my sins, and be the Lord of my life. I truly desire a daily walk with You, Jesus.
Thank You, Jesus, for saving me.