If we want to be a better, wiser person, then we should purpose in our heart to ensure that we are hanging around with people who have the traits we would like to develop.
If we associate with people who lack a moral compass ( the
ability to judge what is right or wrong and act accordingly), (“fools” in the Bible), those associates will get us in trouble.
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Friends often bond by providing each other with moral support to resist a temptation. Friends can also conspire with each other to indulge in temptation together.
1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived; Evil company corrupts good habits.
In other words, don’t be fooled by people who say such things, for ” bad company corrupts good character.
Men, women, boys and girls we need to make friends with people who will improve us rather than corrupt us. All of us need to associate with people who will be a positive influence in our lives. The kind of friends we choose will be a major factor in whether we succeed or fail in life.
HOW TO PICK BETTER FRIENDS
1. Change whom you hang around with. As the Bible says, your friends will influence your behavior and values. Stop being with people who drag you down. You don’t have to be mean or unfriendly. Make yourself unavailable by spending more time with the right kind of people.
2. Establish standards: Often we choose friends (regardless of age) based on image or style. It is essential that we learn to see beyond outward appearance, and “LOOK OUTSIDE THE BOX.” Is this person headed in the right direction? Does he/she have good values? Is he/she self-disciplined? IS THIS PERSON PURSUING GOD?
3. Be someone others would want as a friend. It will be easier to find better friends if you’re a person others want to be with. Make sure you are honoring God with your life.
4. Create your own “advisory board.” Identify a group of friends who can help nourish the best in you. Seek their honest feedback about your life, your attitude, your marriage, your parenting, your relationship with God, and other things that matter to you.
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Parents, as your children grow up, they move increasingly from your “influence” to the “influence” of others. It’s important to teach your children how to make the right decisions about who their friends will be.